I’m listening to a talk between Rayya Elias and Elizabeth Gilbert, and Liz Gilbert just quoted Rayya who says “The truth has legs, it will always stand.” They made the point that it’s going to come out sooner or later, so getting it out as soon as possible is the best thing.
Timing is everything, isn’t it? I’ve just been worrying about this. I’m not being non-confrontational in the new gig, and predictably, I’m not making fast friends, as a result. I’m not picking fights, but I am trying to be straightforward, and it’s uncomfortable.
My entire life, I’ve been non-confrontational. I’m a pleaser by nature. I can’t tell you how emotional it is for me to have gone to the physical therapy place and said “I didn’t have a great connection with this person, so can I work with someone else, please?” Instead of letting a project be late, I’m saying “we’re not making the kind of progress we need to, to make our deadlines, so I can tell you from here, it’s going to be late.” “We’re not going to be able to deliver on the promise you want to make about that, because our process isn’t there yet.”
Fortunately, for me, I have some friends here who know me well, and some people who (seem to) appreciate what I’m bringing to the table. But I found myself wondering this morning “wouldn’t it just be easier to be the sweet pleaser I used to be?”
But the truth has legs. It will always stand. Being a pleaser makes the moment pleasant-er, but it makes the future more tangled and hard to navigate.