I cleaned up at Toastmasters today, and I think it’s because I admitted that I practiced my first speech on a date. The crowd went wild for the idea that I tried out my material on a date, but I did it after repeated requests. Honestly, when I mention Toastmasters or public speaking to guys, they say “I want to hear your speech.” I don’t know if it’s just that polite thing— when they hear that I sing, or that I took guitar lessons, or that I take a bellydancing class at the gym, they all say “I want to (see, hear…)”— or if it’s truly something they’re interested in, but it’s come up with both guys I’ve been out with since I joined the club. And they ask and ask, so I share highlights and ask opinions. It’s kind of a nice way to share what I’m thinking about.
May has been a bit of a dating hiatus for me. With work-crazy, getting the garden up and running, volunteer commitments and things, I decided not to get back out there right away after the last guy and I parted ways. Plus, it’s always good to be sure that you’re not working things out on the next person you meet. It’s been nice— hanging out with friends or on my own. Dating in the summer is a tough proposition for me— I’m self-entertaining at any time of year, but especially so in the summer. A long bike ride and a swim after work sounds much nicer than refreshing a profile and arranging a coffee date. So I think this summer, I’m going to try to do the “meet people who share my interests” kind of dating. I took a hiatus from online dating a couple of years ago and for a year, only met people in in-person ways. It’s a nice way to go. Results are a little less predictable than online dating, but that has its charms. I might make an exception and try “How About We” or something that’s less talky and more event-centered.
Dates I’d propose:
- Baseball game. Because even if the date’s no good, there’s nothing like a day at the ball park. Plus, I’ve developed a suspicion of men who don’t like conventional sports, from dating several of them. Specifically, I suspect that it won’t work out, because I like sports more than your average girl.
- We do lots of retro movies and concerts in the park, in my area. That’s a fun couple-y activity.
- Hikes and bikes. I also tend to date guys who don’t know how to ride a bike. Not sure why that is.
- Amusement park. I am a girl who appreciates a roller coaster, looking for a boy who finds how much I appreciate roller coasters endearing (or at very least, amusing).
- Walk to the ice cream place. Because… obviously.
So what do you think? What’s your favorite summertime (early-relationship) date? Where should I look for this sports-loving, bike-riding, roller-coaster Romeo of mine?